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TEACHING PRESENTATION SKILLS TO KIDS

Empowering Youth Through Public Speaking

Thirteen-year-old Shelby Kilpatrick and her 10-year-old twin sisters, Lauren and Kaitlyn, were only a “little nervous” the day they spoke for an audience of 14,000 at the 2006 Environmental Science Research Institute’s international conference in San Diego, California.

“Once we started talking, everything was fine,” says Shelby. Their speech discussed the trio’s 4-H project in which they used a GPS system to create a trail map for the Texas Department of Parks and Wildlife. Ask the girls how they remained calm and capably spoke in front of all those people, and they gladly credit Toastmasters.

Thanks to an eight-week Youth Leadership program sponsored by the Denton Toastmasters club in Denton, Texas, the Kilpatrick sisters received extensive training on presentation skills and leadership.

“The classes were really fun,” says Shelby, who speaks often during her 4-H work. [4-H is a youth organization sponsored by the U.S. Department of Agriculture.] “My sisters and I learned to be calm and to present our information so that people understand it. Now I really like giving speeches. It makes me feel important to get up there and talk about things that people enjoy hearing. I also learn a lot when I put together my speeches.”

Shelby’s mom, Susan Kilpatrick, saw a great deal of change in Shelby and her sisters after the Toastmasters training.

“They’re pretty much fearless today,” says Susan. “Learning to speak in public built their communication skills and confidence and enabled them to develop charisma and capture attention. They volunteer all the time for tasks that require leadership roles and easily work with groups, organizing other children and communicating what needs to be done.”

Creating outgoing, well-organized, motivated children is the goal of Distinguished Toastmaster Ron Clark. The 30-year member is president of the TV Toastmasters club in Dallas, Texas, and began the Youth Leadership training in 2004.

“We’ve seen the training program really take off,” says Clark, who is also secretary for the Texas Jumptart Coalition, which seeks to improve the financial literacy of young adults. “My first Youth Leadership class in 2004 consisted of nine students,” he says. “Now I get calls all of the time. I’m currently scheduled to do several workshops for home schoolers, high schoolers, middle schoolers and elementary students.”

“Before the [Youth] Leadership classes, we never did any kind of speaking, and now we speak all of the time,” Kaitlyn says. “It’s easy once you know how.”

Designed to develop speaking and leadership skills for adolescents and teens, Toastmasters’ eight-week Youth Leadership program is similar to a regular Toastmasters meeting. Classes last about two hours, and the students run the meeting while the coordinator provides training and guidance. The informal course focuses on teaching students communication and leadership skills. They learn to overcome nervousness when speaking in front of groups, to organize and present ideas logically and convincingly, to listen carefully to the ideas of other students, and offer helpful advice.

“Kids absolutely love the training,” says Clark, who feels that speech training also teaches children skills critical to a successful life that they often don’t learn in school.

“Children learn hard skills like math and science in school, but speech training teaches them important soft skills such as leadership, creativity, persuasiveness and organization,” says Clark, pointing out that mastering these talents in Toastmasters made him successful in his career as an engineer.

Parents and Toastmasters teaching the Youth Leadership program say kids benefit by learning speaking skills at a young age. “The sooner you teach children about public speaking, the better,” says Susan Kilpatrick. “If you catch kids before they have that fear of speaking in front of people, they’ll probably miss that hurdle altogether and go on to be great communicators and leaders.”

Abe Birnbaum, DTM, a member of the Denton Toastmasters club, has assisted Clark with Youth Leadership training and agrees with the importance of teaching children presentation skills as early as possible. “Kids take to speaking readily because they haven’t learned to be embarrassed yet,” says Birnbaum. “This sort of training is one of the best benefits you can give them and it will stay with them for the rest of their lives.”

Thanks to the leadership and speech training classes, 10-year-old Lauren Kilpatrick feels she can speak in front of anyone now. “The classes helped me do things that I thought I couldn’t do. Now I’m not afraid to speak, and I can talk about anything at any time. I was a princess in a personality contest recently and they interviewed me, and I just got up there and said something, and it was okay.”

Lauren’s twin sister, Kaitlyn, agrees. “Before the leadership classes, we never did any kind of speaking, and now we speak all the time,” she says. “It’s easy once you know how.”

Their older sister Shelby found Table Topics to be especially helpful. “I’m able to think on my feet now, and I can put together a speech really quickly,” she says. “I recently did a speech for the Denton County Livestock Association Youth Fair on honeybees. I wrote the speech and gave it the same day. I talked about some general information about honeybees, including how they live and the different products that they create like honey and royal jelly. The speech was judged, and I got third place.”

Perhaps one of the best aspects of teaching children about speaking is “knowing that we’re equipping the future leaders of our country,” says Clark. “These children are our next generation, and this type of training is important for them and our future,” he says. And although Clark isn’t running the leadership training programs specifically to increase Toastmasters membership, he notes that many of the students are likely to become members once they are 18.

Tips for Teaching Youth Leadership

Of all his accomplishments as a Toastmaster, Ron Clark says he gets much satisfaction teaching speaking skills to youngsters. “Perhaps the best part of showing children how to speak is the look of exhilaration on their faces when they succeed,” he says. “They’re so excited when they realize that they did it all by themselves.” Here he offers tips for successfully educating young people about presentation skills:

  • Do your homework: “Carefully read the coordinator’s manual and take advantage of the resources offered by Toastmasters,” says Clark. “There are districts all over the world that have so much valuable material to share; learn from their experiences.”
  • Be expressive: Kids like to see animation and a lively performance. “When I do a speech on gestures, I make a big display,” says Clark. “I’ll fool with the keys in my pocket and adjust my glasses and make a lot of noise with change. I also emphasize being purposeful with your gestures; kids love that.”
  • Encourage children to give as many speeches as they want: “Initially, many kids are a little shy, but once they start speaking, they often don’t want to stop,” says Clark. “Have as many children as possible speak at each session.”
  • Limit participants: Clark likes to keep his class size to no more than 25 students so that he can cover all the important topics and give everyone a chance to speak.
  • Minimize handouts and topics covered: Kids can only soak up so much information in each session. Don’t pile a bunch of paperwork on them, which can be overwhelming. Instead focus on one topic, such as gestures, speech openings or giving evaluations.
  • Enjoy yourself: Have fun with the kids and they’ll have fun, too, says Clark. “Relax, get a little silly, and use plenty of humor.”

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BENEFITS OF BEING BILINGUAL

Alejandro Saiz, CC, grew up speaking Spanish, the language of his home country, Spain. Yet in his current job, he finds it important to speak both Spanish and English.
“I work at Airbus in Madrid, and the official way of communication with other countries is English, but at the Spanish site [of the company], we hold most meetings in Spanish,” he says. “We have frequent meetings in Spanish and frequent meetings and phone telecoms in English.”
Saiz has found the perfect place to practice communicating effectively in both languages: the Nova Communication Bilingual Toastmasters club in Madrid. The club meets weekly and uses an alternating format, holding its meetings in Spanish one week and in English the next. Chartered in 2010, it clearly fills a need: The club has more than 50 members.
Speaking both languages in the club, says Saiz, “means training in an environment as close as can be to my day-to-day work.”
María José Cid, CC, CL, and a group of individuals she met during a leadership training course chartered the club. A native Spanish speaker, Cid says it was difficult when she started giving speeches in English. “I suffered from a fear of public speaking and doing it in a second language was tougher than doing it in my mother tongue,” she says.
But eventually she became more comfortable and confident. Developing bilingual skills is vital in Spain, says Cid. “Current business and career demands make it a must for Spaniards to speak English.” The club’s format of alternating languages from one week to the next helps members greatly, she adds.
“Every week, our mind frame is set for the language to be used [in that week’s meeting], and all forms, including written evaluations, are in that language,” says Cid. “We consider it language immersion for Spanish speakers when the meeting is in English and the same thing for members of other nationalities when it is in Spanish. The use of both languages naturally improves with time and exposure.”
Saiz says the biggest challenge for him is adapting his speech delivery to the language in which he’s speaking.
“I have noticed that in my case the language has a significant influence over many aspects of the speech,” he says. “For example, I have the tendency to speak too fast in Spanish, but in English I think I control the pacing better. For this reason, when I am preparing a speech and I review the suggestions that I received from previous speeches, sometimes I need to put the suggestions into perspective, taking into account if I had given that speech in Spanish or in English.”
Diverse Membership
Nova Communication members hail from a number of different countries, making the club’s format even more valuable, says Gracia Uceda, CC, CL. “The bilingual format generates an environment of trust that makes it comfortable for all to participate in the meetings,” she says.
Graciela Tena, CC, a Mexican-American currently living in Spain, says she heard about Toastmasters from a friend when Tena lived in the U.S. When her husband’s work as a military diplomat brought her and her family to Spain, she became a member of Nova Communication.
“Since I joined the club, I have enriched my Spanish vocabulary and gained confidence presenting in Spanish,” Tena says.
The club, which meets at a local business school, uses video equipment to help members improve their skills. Tena edits and uploads videos to YouTube from each week’s speeches, noting that the videos help members “learn from their mistakes and embrace their strengths.”
The club’s strong mentoring program also helps members. Those preparing a speech in their second language can meet with a mentor for whom that language is their native tongue, says Saiz, who served as the club’s mentoring coordinator in 2014–2015.
“Delivering speeches in two languages means more room for improvement (as there is always a language you are less comfortable with), and also more room for the mentors to help,” he says. “Some mentees send a preview video of their speeches to the mentors or even meet in person. It is always helpful to have someone review your speech, maybe tell you, ‘That part is clear’ or ‘That one is a bit of a tongue-twister’ and suggest other ways to say it.”
Nova Communication also helped one member, Pablo Ibáñez, CC, CL, with his stuttering problem. He’s now the club president. “My goal was to speak in front of an audience and stutter and not be fearful or ashamed of it,” says Ibáñez, who says support from club members helped him realize this goal as well as become more fluent in both languages.
A version of this article appeared in the September 2015 issue of the Toastmaster magazine.

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FROM TRAGEDY TO TRIUMPH Burn victim inspires others with his music and speeches.

Talk to Dan Caro about his life and he’ll tell you that things are just as they should be. The motivational speaker and professional drummer suffered a devastating childhood accident but says, “There are no negatives in life.”
A former Toastmaster, Caro is the author of The Gift of Fire: How I Made Adversity Work for Me. He says, “I believe in owning your life and being 100 percent accountable for your actions and reactions. I’ve come to terms with my history and realized that everything happens for a reason.”
When Caro was 2 years old and playing near a water heater, a gas can fell over, igniting a 2,500-degree fireball that engulfed him. His tiny body became so hot that once he arrived at the hospital, doctors had to cut him with a scalpel to release trapped heat. During those first tentative hours, he died three times. Eighty percent of his body received third- and fourth-degree burns, which meant extensive loss of skin, including on his face. He also lost his fingers and most of his hands.
As a child, Caro spent more than four years in the hospital undergoing 80 grafting and reconstruction surgeries. Much of that time was spent in isolation rooms because his thin skin made him susceptible to staph infections. It was during this period that Caro discovered how people truly treat one another and where they place their values.
“All of that self-reflection set me on a path to discovering my dharma, which is my life’s purpose,” says Caro. “I’ve always felt compelled to excel so that I can inspire people to live their lives to the fullest without complaint or excuse.”
During childhood when other kids were fretting over skinned knees and homework assignments, Caro struggled to achieve tasks that many take for granted, such as tying his shoelaces.
“I attended a private school from preschool through eighth grade, and initially the kids made fun of me until one day when I chased after the class bully and overpowered him,” he says. “From that day on, I was friends with everyone.”
Determination Pays Off
With no fingers or even hands, Caro’s seven-year struggle to tie his shoelaces wasn’t as quickly overcome, but the experience taught him a wealth of other great skills, including patience and persistence. “Though I lacked the dexterity to grip the shoelaces, I tried every day until I finally tied them,” he says. “I can only explain it as a spiritual energy. On that particular day, things clicked and I suddenly had a new-found strength. I believed so strongly that I could tie my shoes that my intentions led to the manifestation of the goal.”
After succeeding with his shoelaces, Caro decided to tackle the drums. “I have a functional thumb on my left hand, but not on my right one, so it’s hard to grip anything, such as a drumstick,” he says. “After a few unsuccessful attempts that included painful things like glue, my dad called a drummer friend and he suggested wrist bands, which I supplemented with rubber bands, creating fully functioning hands.”
Caro began playing the drums at age 12 and found steady work for many years throughout his hometown of New Orleans, Louisiana. At one time he was the primary drummer for 11 jazz bands.
“Dan is a remarkable drummer, which is especially impressive when you consider his situation,” says Stanton Moore, a professional drummer in New Orleans who has known Caro for several years. “I’ve seen Dan power through a gig with such determination, and he does it all with a smile. He is one of the most inspirational people I’ve ever met. Whenever I think my life is tough, I just look at him and realize that I have no excuses.”
It was Hurricane Katrina in August 2005 that prompted Caro to change his career path from drumming to professional speaking and writing. “Katrina taught me to not ground yourself with a location or get attached to your stuff, because it can all go away suddenly. I realized that who you are and what you have inside of you – your consciousness – is all that really matters.”
Caro’s speaking career actually started two years before, in 2003, when his father suggested he attend a Toastmasters meeting. “Back then if someone asked me a question, I would freeze up and had difficulty expressing myself,” says Caro. “Going to Toastmasters was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. The organization gave me the tools and confidence to do what I’m doing now.”
Becoming a Toastmasters Leader
He quickly earned his Competent Communicator award and became president of his club, Totally Toastmasters in Mandeville, Louisiana, bringing it back to Distinguished status by his second year. Today Caro is a sought-after speaker and author who regularly presents to audiences numbering in the thousands.
Steve Siebold is a professional speaker who met Caro at a speech workshop several years ago and became Caro’s coach. “Dan’s message was unbelievably compelling and inspirational; he just needed some refinement in how he shared it,” says Siebold, who speaks on the topic of mental strength. “Considering his heart-wrenching story, there is the challenge of the audience feeling emotionally drained after hearing it. But Dan connects with the audience and shares the wisdom he acquired because of his tragedy, convincing listeners that they too can succeed, no matter the odds. He makes the presentation even more uplifting by playing the drums.”
While Siebold helped Caro develop his speaking skills, he has learned a great deal from Caro in return. “Dan is never really out of my mind as I go about my life,” he says. “When I compare my challenges to his, I just laugh.”
Toastmasters Past International President Bennie Bough, DTM, agrees. “As a burn victim, Dan electrifies his audience with his message and demonstrates that being handicapped is not an obstacle,” says Bough. “He captivates your heart and inspires you to higher levels of success.”
Today Caro is busy speaking and writing. His current mentor is Wayne Dyer, who wrote the for- ward for Caro’s newly released book, The Gift of Fire. While he doesn’t play the drums professionally anymore, Caro still enjoys music and has started composing. He is also a spokesperson for Shriners International, a philanthropic organization that supports Shriners Hospitals, an international health care system of 22 hospitals that – specializes in treating children free of charge for burns, orthopedic– conditions, spinal-cord injuries and cleft lip and palate. “It was at Shriners Hospitals that I had my 80 surgeries, and I feel it’s my duty to give back to the organization that saved my life,” he says.
Caro plans to continue sharing his message of determination, strength and hope. “I have come to realize that people looked at me differently throughout different periods of my life because of how I looked at myself. I don’t get many weird looks anymore, and I think it’s because when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. When you live with no judgments or terms or conditions, things manifest the way you want them to – with no negatives.”
For more information about Dan Caro, visit www.DanCaro.com.
Julie Bawden-Davis is a freelance writer based in Southern California and a longtime contributor to the Toastmaster. You can reach her at Julie@JulieBawdenDavis.com.
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

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Profile: Kyle Bryant – Cycling For A Cure

Turning Adversity Into Action: Kyle Bryant’s Inspiring Ride Against Friedreich’s Ataxia

By Julie Bawden-Davis

Discovering a Rare Diagnosis

Like many boys, Kyle Bryant actively participated in sports. When incoordination plagued him throughout adolescence, his parents sought answers from several doctors. At 17, he was finally diagnosed with Friedreich’s Ataxia (FA), a rare, crippling, and progressive genetic condition.

Rather than despair, Bryant chose a mindset of gratitude.

“I remember immediately thinking how fortunate I was to be so active despite the disorder,” he says. “I thought that I should do as much as I could before it was too late to benefit others with FA who weren’t so fortunate.”

Finding Purpose Through Pedals

After earning an engineering degree in 2005, Bryant was increasingly challenged by the physical symptoms of FA. Seeing someone ride a specialized tricycle on TV sparked an idea.

  • He bought a trike and rode seven miles on his first outing.
  • Weeks later, he was riding up to 50 miles at a time.
  • Just four months in, he completed a 100-mile ride for the American Diabetes Association.

“During the last 20 miles, I realized that I was going to finish,” says Bryant. “If I can do this, I can do anything.”

Launching Ride Ataxia

Inspired by his own experience, Bryant founded Ride Ataxia in 2007 and biked 2,500 miles from San Diego to Memphis with his father and uncle in just 59 days.

  • They raised $40,000, which was matched by two FA organizations—totaling $100,000.
  • Since then, Ride Ataxia has generated nearly $1 million for FA research.

“It’s important to not use your circumstances as an excuse,” says Bryant, “but to use them as a reason to do something great with your life.”

From Engineer to Advocate

For two years, Bryant balanced a full-time engineering job with Ride Ataxia fundraising. In October 2009, he left engineering to become the spokesperson for the Friedreich’s Ataxia Research Alliance (FARA).

Ronald Bartek, FARA’s co-founder, shares:

“Kyle is a man of real character and a wonderful communicator. His efforts have inspired families and even researchers—who now dare to speak of a cure.”

Dr. Robert Wilson of the University of Pennsylvania agrees:

“Kyle has raised extraordinary sums and brought visibility to FA. His own strength, despite the fatigue caused by FA, is nothing short of stupendous.”

Empowering Through Public Speaking

In 2008, Bryant began sharing his story through public speaking. Introduced to Toastmasters by a coworker, he embraced the platform as a way to connect with others and raise awareness.

John Tillison, a fellow Toastmaster, recalls:

“Kyle’s Ice Breaker speech started as an upbeat sports tale, then took a moving turn. His growth as a speaker has been phenomenal. His humor and passion make his message powerful.”

Inspiring Families Facing FA

Donna and John Newman, whose daughter Natalie was diagnosed with FA in 2010, found hope through Bryant’s work.

“We were devastated until we found Kyle,” says Donna. “When Natalie met him in Dallas, she told her friends she had met her hero.”

A Coast-to-Coast Challenge

In June 2010, Bryant and two other cyclists represented FARA in the Race Across America, completing the 3,000-mile ride in just over eight days.

“This disease limits us, but I always say: life is not about what happens to us—it’s about how we react to what happens.” —Kyle Bryant

Learn More and Get Involved

For more information on Kyle Bryant, Ride Ataxia, and the Friedreich’s Ataxia Research Alliance, visit www.rideataxia.org.

Julie Bawden-Davis is a freelance writer based in Southern California and a longtime contributor to the Toastmaster. Contact her at Julie@JulieBawdenDavis.com.